How to make a dependent elder feel independent in homecare?

My grandmother has always been a very strong, independent woman. At 75, she was traveling the world by herself – to China, Ireland, Rome, Hawaii and many other places. Now she is 82, has diabetes, and has recently had some back surgery done that has given her a lame leg and a very sore back and made her totally dependent. She even has to use a walker just to get around. I take her to the gym every day to help her with physical therapy, but she is completely shaken at the loss of her independence. How can I take care of my grandmOther and still help her feel independent?

Let her make choices and perhaps finding a group for her or contacting some of her friends to help do things.Also she is at the age of 82 and she may not feel the strength of trying to get back to her young active self. If she seems depressed try talking to her doctor, sometimes medical personal can "get through" to people when they wont listen to family. Goodluck and I hope she finds activities to help build her strength

June 11, 2009 | Filed Under Senior Homecare Services | Senior Day Care Assistance 

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5 Responses to “How to make a dependent elder feel independent in homecare?”

  1. a123bghj on June 11th, 2009 11:54 pm

    life alert lol
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  2. Coach Shana on June 12th, 2009 12:37 am

    I would talk to her openly and candidly about it. Tell her how you feel, how much you respect and admire her for being so courageous with this. Treat her like the amazing woman she is. Ask her what you can do to support her to feel more independent? I want to acknowledge you for being so loving and strong in supporting her the way you do.
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  3. Skylar on June 12th, 2009 1:18 am

    Talk to her, help her get back doing things on her own.
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  4. Bob on June 12th, 2009 1:27 am

    Yes Life Alert is the best way and if there is anything that is called in have them call you also…but that will help her with her independence.
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  5. Melissa D on June 12th, 2009 2:01 am

    Let her make choices and perhaps finding a group for her or contacting some of her friends to help do things.Also she is at the age of 82 and she may not feel the strength of trying to get back to her young active self. If she seems depressed try talking to her doctor, sometimes medical personal can "get through" to people when they wont listen to family. Goodluck and I hope she finds activities to help build her strength
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